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Tuesday, August 10, 2010

Break Free of Parenting Pressures {Book Review}

Book Cover

Have you ever wondered how parenting can be so fulfilling and yet so overwhelming? Have you ever dealt with your child's behavior and then had to fight off the guilt and uncertainty as to whether or not you did the right thing?
Many parents experience regular battles with self-doubt, frustration, and fear that they are damaging their kids for life. In Break Free of Parenting Pressures, author and parent educator Debbie Pokornik discusses how you can throw off these shackles - recognizing you have what it takes to do a good job and allowing your inner wisdom to shine through.
Break Free of Parenting Pressures discusses:
• Insights into why you parent the way you do
• Secrets to help you understand your family
• Ideas for building strong relationships with the important people in your life
• Suggestions for strengthening your parenting strategies
• Techniques to help you relieve stress and increase your pleasure in being a parent
Parenting will always be challenging. Let Break Free of Parenting Pressures help you decrease your concerns so you can enjoy this time and blossom as a family.

About the author: Debbie Pokornik

Debbie Pokornik is a parent educator, speaker, and workshop leader. She is a mother of two who believes all parents can benefit from support and encouragement at some point in their parenting journey. She lives on a small acreage in Manitoba with her husband, two teenagers, and numerous pets. Visit www.empoweringnrg.com or www.debbiepokornik.com.

 

My Review:

I loved this book. I loved it for many reasons. For one, it’s not just a book, it’s kind of a parenting NOTEBOOK. It talks about a lot of things that parents need to know, and a lot that parents could use some looking over from time to time. The chapters contain exercises, debbie’s personal stories, thought-provoking articles, and suggested resources so enthusiastic readers can use this book to guide themselves toward major changes. She also includes fun, realistic, easy and effective tips, which she calls FREE parenting tips, for those who prefer the ideas without any explanation at all.

You know your family and situation better than anyone else. You can use this book for ideas and support. This is just overall an amazing book that I will keep to look into every chance I may need it. This book is full of exercises to include your kids in. Although my kids are still too young to include, it did give me insight as to what I do want their future to include.

She tells her own stories of her parenting issues with her kids and how it affected her and her kids. I thought it was amazing and exactly correct what she said. She didn’t want them to feel bad when she asked them the truth. She knew that getting mad wasn’t the answer because they would be afraid to tell her the truth when she asked. I have seen this and even experienced this myself when I was younger. Kids do pick up on your attitudes no matter what they are. If you get mad, they will know you get mad, and will continue to be afraid to admit their wrongs.

I also love how she talks about bullying and the way you should act. As mothers, it is our nature to get mad at someone for being mean and disrespectful to our young. It is the way you react that teaches your kids how to react to the situation. She tells you that it is very important to listen to your child when they are talking about how they have been treated, but is also MORE important not to over react. When your kids come to you and tell you what they have to say, they are expecting you to listen to their stories and give them real world advice. It is easy to get mad at the person who has made your child upset, but it is teaching them the wrong way to act. Tell them that the way they are being treated isn’t okay and they don’t deserve to be treated that way. And then tell them that they are strong enough, smart enough, and resilient enough to handle it. If you take the battle for them, they may not learn how to handle it in the future.

This woman is just so smart. It is amazing how much I thought I knew about parenting, but she re-works it into an even better perspective. Teaching parents how to be great listeners, great advice givers, and how to manage the anger that sometimes eludes parents when their children do something unacceptable and know is out of bounds.

I recommend this to both newbie parents and experienced parents as well. It just helps you understand how parenting can be rewarding so we are teaching ourselves to be better parents, so our kids can just follow in the footsteps. Haven’t you ever heard “They won’t do what you say, but they will do what you do”. They need guidance and if you do something they may think it is okay too. This isn’t a “bad parent” book that someone would buy to be a “better” parent. It is a guide teaching you how to be a better person overall and how to handle parenting stress with ease instead of getting more stressed about it.

it’s like a parenting/psychology book mixed. I love it.

I was not paid in anyway to review this book. this is clearly my own opinion of the book after reading it. my recommendations of this book are true. I wouldn’t tell you that you should purchase something if i wouldn’t do purchase it myself. I thank debbie pokornik for the chance to review this book. I also thank her for being a genius parent and sharing this advice.

you can find her on facebook

her personal website, or on her empowering website

this book is available on amazon..it is a book every parent should have on their bookshelf.



♥Jess

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Jessica is the writer behind Sweet Southern Mama. She is the mother of 2 adorable kids- Aidan, 7 and Adisyn, 5. She lives in Kentucky with her fiance and kids. She loves designing blogs, reading, writing, crafting, all things electronic, photography, and spending time with her family.

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